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May 28, Idealist personality types – namely ENFPs, ENFJs, INFPs and INFJs Both types want to be the “star” of their relationship when it comes to downs and inside- outs of everyday life as an ENFP in her new book available here. An in-depth analysis of ENFP relationships and ENFPs' compatibility with other personality types. How then, might we account for INFJ relationship dissatisfaction? Aren't INFJs and ENFJs supposed to be masters of human dealings, interpersonal.
At first blush, we might be tempted to ascribe this to their perfectionism and, to some extent, this may be warranted. But according to type theory, we would expect INFJs perfectionistic hang-ups to relate more to Se matters i. How then, might we account for INFJ relationship dissatisfaction? Their Fe assertions can be direct, intense, and emotionally-charged. Such judgments, especially when unsolicited, are not always well received by others.
With that said, it often feels unnatural, for NFJs to carefully censor or restrain their judgments, since this forces them into the uncomfortable position of handling their emotions and judgments inwardly, thereby functioning more like NFPs than NFJs.
One of the stickier contexts for NFJs to deliver their judgments is romantic relationships. It is also assumed that both partners are equally capable of delivering and receiving reproach. From the NFJ perspective, however, all persons are not endowed with an equal talent for effectively understanding and navigating relationships.
And regardless of whether NFJs actually know more about their partners than their partners know about themselves, their mates will often come to resist or resent such assumptions.
Such relationships can provide ENTPs with what appears to be a fast track to wholeness. Unfortunately, it is rarely long before such pairings begin to encounter difficulties, as they realize how little they have in common and how different they really are. This is not to say that ENTPs could never make it work with SJs, but only that these relationships are predictably more challenging because of the opposing nature of the involved personality functions.
This is due, at least in part, to the fact that SPs are extremely common, especially in the U. ESPs, who are also Perceiving dominants, can resemble ENTPs in their tendency to be fun-loving and novelty-seeking this similarity is evidenced, for instance, in the conflation of Se and Ne in the Enneagram type 7.
The ENFP’s Guide To Dating Other Idealist Types
These types may share interests in things like games and movies, as well as various physical activities. ENTPs, by contrast, are relatively unconcerned with material novelties and niceties, placing higher priority on creative and ideational treasures.
Those pairing another NP type e. With that said, ENP-ENP couples may run into difficulties related to excessive similarity or a deficiency of complementarity. They may find, for instance, that both partners prefer to be talking most of the time, making conversations more competitive or frustrating than nourishing.
Many NPs especially those not raised in affluence display relatively meager standards of living. Using Si rather than Se, they tend to be minimalists with respect to the material world this seems particularly true of INPs.ESTJ + ENFP Love: 10 Questions About Our Relationship
Hence, finances may be less of a contentious issue in NP-NP pairings. Since INJs are also dominant Perceivers i. This could inspire fierce resistance from the highly independent ENTP, even if displayed in passive-aggressive ways.
They also have no functions in common and may display significantly different interests and approaches to life. This is not to say that such a pairing could never work or even work wellbut both partners would need to be quite individuated and secure in themselves. Since their natural mode is one of adaptation, they may assume they can adapt their way out of nearly any relational difficulty. While some degree of compromise is helpful and necessary in any relationship, some ENTPs may do so excessively.
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This tendency relates not only to their status as P-types, but to their tertiary Fe, which strives to maintain peace and harmony in relationships. Consequently, ENTPs can end up digging themselves a relational hole by adapting to the point of losing themselves. This can lead them to resent their partner and act out in passive-aggressive ways.
It is therefore important for ENTPs to adopt a policy of openness and honesty in their relationships, ensuring that their grievances and preferences are being openly aired and discussed.
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With that said, the foremost challenge for ENTPs is often not their relationships, but finding a suitable and satisfying career.